I was drinking too much.
Exercising infrequently. I was one track minded, glued to my phone and steering every conversation with Michelle to the business I was proud of but I was drowning in.
The countdown is on.
Tomorrow is a new year.
The turkey bloat is wearing off and your mind is turning to a new leaf.
No matter what the past year was like, there is always a sense of optimism with a new year. A chance to grow and evolve.
Most set some goals.
Goals are good, but the problem with goals is that there are more unsuccessful people with goals than successful. They aren’t a differentiator in success and have a wicked survivor bias.
You only hear about those who set and hit them rather than those who set and miss them.
There’s one factor that separates those who win and those who don’t.
The daily, weekly and monthly standards you set yourself and follow through on.
The standard of your habits.
The standard of your thoughts.
The standard of your environment.
The standard of your relationships.
The standard of your plan.
The sad fact is that most people set their standards LOW.
Lack the belief that you even deserve to have freedom, wealth, abundance and love.
Raising your standards involves raising your belief and acting accordingly.
If you want to be a millionaire what daily habits does a millionaire have?
If you want to be fit and lean what daily actions does someone who is undertake?
If you want to be free from the grind what systems and strategy does that require?
NOTHING happens without action. Without decisions.
You can have your goals. Your vision. Your ambition. They help keep you going.
But raising your standards and actions achieves them.
Make 2019 the year of high standards and it will be your best ever.
The image of Success used to be a fat tie knot and a double breasted suit
Entrepreneurs have traded suits and ties for tshirts and hoodies
Mark Zuckerberg is notorious for wearing the same clothes everyday
Barack Obama buys multiple versions of the same suits.
Do they do this because they are sartorially challenged?
No, they do it to minimise the number of decisions they make.
Each decision you make takes up significant cognitive load.
Your brain shuffles it into the consciousness and works away at it.
The problem is your conscious mind is small. Limited in its capacity.
High performers minimise the number of decisions they make to preserve this precious resource.
Not being able to make a decision is literally what it means to be stuck.
High performers have another tool in the arsenal.
Someone who can show them the steps to take to get a result.
Someone who’s walked the walk and helped others along the way.
A coach removes variables, decisions and shines a light on the path.
All it leaves is the work. Coaches don’t remove the need for hard work. They focus you on just the hard work you need to get the result you want.
The alternative solo path is like a combination lock. You can try all the different combos. Maybe you’ll find the combo, maybe you won’t. But you’ll waste a lot of energy along the way on all the different combinations.
In a complex world there are more options and variables than ever.
If you want to know the combination, get a coach.
Shine the light.
I was a frustrating student.
“Kemp, if you put more effort in, you would get top of the class”
(I went to one of those schools that did Latin and called everyone by their last name)
It was funny, because I was getting good marks anyway.
They could have been better but I couldn’t see the cost/benefit in putting in hours of study to get 10% better.
I’ve always questioned the concept of work. What it means and what it is. I’ve described myself as strategically lazy, as I find ways to achieve large amounts with the minimal amount of effort.
I see people busting their asses. The Grinders. Putting in the hours. Bemoaning their busyness. And seemingly getting no further ahead. Needlessly sacrificing themselves and their family at the alter of achievement.
Then there is a small group who are just getting it done. The Flow. Not grinding long hours. Making it look effortless.
I know why.
One group works hard and the other works hard.
But their definitions are different.
The Grinders have carried over the definition of work from school. Busy work. Put the hours in. Do everything.
It’s just how it is. Take every call. Reply to every email. Spend hours tweaking their new logo.
Keep your head down and the rewards will come.
The Flow are the opposite. They spend time creating.
Studying. Writing. Thinking. Looking for the edge.
Putting their heads up and test their ideas in the court of public opinion.
The Grinders don’t want to expose their ideas.
The Flow do.
The Grinders would rather be busy in the shadows. Avoiding the emotional hard work and sacrificing this precious thing called time.
The Flow accept the emotional hard work. The risk of criticism and comparison that comes so naturally to many. And they get the hard work done to spend their time where it matters to them.
Hard work is essential.
But the choice between flow and grind is yours.
Marketing is like black magic these days.
From simple stuff like retargeting – we know you looked at that hotel so here’s a reminder that room is still available
To targeting – we want to reach women in Auckland 34-44 who like horses and gardening
The option is literally at our fingertips.
But thing’s are changing. Privacy and other concerns mean the networks are tightening up what they let us do.
And this matters for everyone.
Because right now, it’s a golden age for using technology, to not only reach your ideal prospect but deliver to your clients with leverage from basically anywhere in the world.
Last week I told you what Facebook wants.
And I’ve made a video on my prediction on what happens next, why this matters and what to do about it.
You can watch it here
Influencers are soooo boring.
Pumping out content saying the same thing every single day.
Boring, boring, boring.
Gary V tells you to be yourself.
Grant Cardone tells you to do the work.
Jordan Peterson tells you to make your bed.
Tired old cliches that have been around for hundreds of years.
That’s all good advice..
The problem with common advice is that it assumes common sense.
Common sense is anything but common.
Most people know what they need to do but they conspire against themselves to not do it either at all or consistently.
The advice to help you down the path you want to trek is out there.
It might even be staring you in the face.
Here’s another cliche you’ll hear most weeks:
“you are the product of the 5 people you spend time with”
But it’s said so often it’s easy to ignore.
And people criticise and say they aren’t saying anything new.
Yes, Einstein, that’s the point.
It stood the test of time.
The fundamentals are the fundamentals.
Battle hardened ideas from the trenches.
Good advice is everywhere.
But so is bad advice.
if someone’s walked the road you want to travel then pay attention.
Even if it’s cliche.
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